Have you ever scrolled through your contacts and paused at a name, wondering what happened to that friend you used to chat with regularly?
You've just identified a "fringe friend."
Why Fringe Friends Matter More Than You Think
Fringe friends aren't strangers, but they're not inner-circle either. They're people who once played important roles in our lives but have slowly drifted to the edges of our social circles.
Yet these connections have surprising value.
Recently, I found myself on the fence about reconnecting with a fringe friend after two years of radio silence. We once shared a tremendous amount of time playing pool together every day, but time created an invisible barrier. Would reconnecting be weird? Had too much time passed? I decided to send a simple text: "Hey, I was just thinking of you, hope you're well!"
The result?
An immediate response leading to a long overdue catch-up. That conversation reminded me of how powerful simple outreach can be.
How to Reconnect with Fringe Friends
Here's what I've learned from my experience:
- Start Small: Reach out casually—a quick text, a comment, or even sharing a random fun memory or story. Small gestures break the ice.
- Be Authentic: Honestly share why you're reconnecting. Authenticity melts awkwardness, making genuine reconnection possible.
- Consistency Beats Intensity: Regular, small interactions strengthen bonds far better than big gestures.
Tools to Stay Connected
Keeping friendships alive doesn't have to be complicated. I use Soonly to set thoughtful reminders that prompt me to reconnect at the right times. Soonly's simple nudges have turned many fringe friends back into meaningful relationships.
Your Fringe Friends Await
Don’t let valuable friendships quietly slip away. Send that text. Make that call. Embrace the joy of reconnecting.
Who’s one fringe friend you'll reach out to today?